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Well at least if it was appropriately labelled I would know to stay out of it.

"who would?"

Did you get that mysterious partition on your computer figured out yet hydra?

lol. klik, I've got a feeling you, me, and jesus would get along...

Yes, actually, I'm reformating it. As lithos eloquently put it, "when in doubt, nuke it out."

Now I'm off to have sex.

Can advice be sought here? I guess that's what I'm asking for, basically.

I work at and attend a university. I am older than the usual college student. By about 10 years or so. My question involves age, hence my pointing it out.

A young lady has been friendly. She works at a movie theatre, asked me if I liked popcorn, and has brought to me enormous bags of buttered popcorn on three occasions. Is this a "pass"?

Two things that give me pause: 1) She is at least 10 years my junior. 2) This is where I work. I'm leary of job-threatening entanglements.

otoh, she is a 6" volleyball goddess with a gorgeous smile.

Let 'er rip. What should I do? Ask her out? Or just simmer down?

Both of you work the theater?

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Now I'm off to have sex.

Well, I guess that puts you one up on hurts... bwuahahah.


Sorry, hurts. We're all pulling for you to get some.

I'm soooo out of practice at this stuff, but I'd be tempted to go with the rhetorical... "So, if I were to ask you out, I guess a movie wouldn't...?" If she doesn't respond with horror to that... and the pressure is not to high in either direction.

He hehe he - that guy said 'pulling'

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Originally posted by uroborus:
Can advice be sought here? I guess that's what I'm asking for, basically.

I work at and attend a university. I am older than the usual college student. By about 10 years or so. My question involves age, hence my pointing it out.

A young lady has been friendly. She works at a movie theatre, asked me if I liked popcorn, and has brought to me enormous bags of buttered popcorn on three occasions. Is this a "pass"?

Two things that give me pause: 1) She is at least 10 years my junior. 2) This is where I work. I'm leary of job-threatening entanglements.

otoh, she is a 6" volleyball goddess with a gorgeous smile.

Let 'er rip. What should I do? Ask her out? Or just simmer down?

I should be so lucky. Ask her is she'd like to go for coffee sometime. Not that that line works much for me. Is she a student directly under you tutelage, or have grades affected by you? If not I'd say you're both consenting adults.

Ha ha! That's called "flirting", and it's fun and nonthreatening.

"Thanks for the popcorn! Er, does this mean I have to sleep with you now? Cause I'm not that easy."

That's a great line, Pauline. tee hee. I don't feel threatened by her. Quite the opposite.

shake, no she works at a theatre. I watch over the dorm some nights and get her "hello" when she gets off work.

And no, martin, she doesn't get any grades from me. Good point. Dating her would not violate any fast rules here. The coffee approach is a good idea. Doesn't scream "date", but it could open the door, so to speak.

yeah, Bravus, I definitely would not take her to a movie, unless she requested.

Thanks, you wonderful WGB people.

I used to watch over the dorms too, until they slapped a restraining order on me. Definitely the coffee approach is the way to go. Good Luck.

I'm drunk now. I left Rachel's place after using her computer and before checking my gmail account's and saw her yahoo account that was still open. She has been in contact, I found out with her ex. The email I read said that they were going to get together on Friday in Sonoma. I confronted her with the email and she broke down crying. She told me that she was hanging with a female friend late last night but this email was fairly clear that it was he that was planing to see her. I told her the truth that tonight, I don't know how I can trust her. She seems to have lied to me but when I confronted her, she said that she didn't meet with the ex late last night, nor does she wish to in the future. My trust in her has been shaken. Clearly at the very least she has desire to communicate, see, and possibly fuck around with her last ex. I left her place around 11pm PST and have been drinking heavy since. I told her that I would call her tomorrow morning...any advice? Shall I give her the benefit of the doubt and stay with her or cut my near 8 month attachment to her now???
All advice/help is appreciated.

I know I started this thread today, but I shit you not this problem has just asrisen between us tonight. Any and all advice or help is much appreciated.

No fun at all man - I can empathise.

Maybe this sounds Pollyannaish, but if I was advising you I'd say "trust until it's impossible to trust any more".

If she says she didn't see the ex last night and isn't planning to soon, believe her (and don't be reading her mail).

If in fact she is messing about, the fact that you have trusted her is more likely to make her choose to be honest with you. And if she *is* being honest, then not trusting her is the surest and fastest way to crash and burn the relationship.

In the final analysis, you have to be secure that you're a good enough man, and good enough to her, to keep her, and then trust that you have her. Maybe I'm an old romantic, but it seems to work OK for me...

I think people still talk to ex's, and arrange times in which to talk to them. Maybe she going to go tell her ex to stop hanging out in the bushes under her window....

Seriously, you shouldn't read other people's emails. Maybe she said she was going to go see him, but so what. jealously rarely looks good on anyone.

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dude, get some sleep.

Well, it must be the days! After this I actually went to her place last night and we talked and talked and talked and decided to give it another try since what we both wanted was to be with each other. (may I add that we are a month sort of a year together)

At the end, me feels, it comes to a simple decision. You either want to be with x or not. If you do, you can solve anything. If you don't, for whatever important or not reason, there is no saving the relationship.

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otoh, she is a 6" volleyball goddess with a gorgeous smile.

ok, since no one else seems to have picked up on this, i guess i'll be the loser that does....

what, she is only six inches tall! thats awesome, she really would fit in your pocket!

god, now i feel all spinal tap.

just kept reading knowing he meant feet but using the metric system for... ever I could'd notice the error.

but have to admit 1.8m is a quit notable height fo a 20.or.so.year.old
2.5cm shorter than me. how highr are you uroborus?

Don't forget to buy her presents ...

My better half just loved this one ...

p.s. at Ann Summers you will find one compleatly equiped ...