really? crap. i thought i had memory of passing through it.
my parents are in portugal, and are flying to luton and back for a funeral in basingstoke.

When you go to page 1123 in this thrad, 1124 doesn't exist.

How strange.

Mr Push - try http://www.thetrainline.com/ Though it seems its gonna be 3 changes from my quick look

must just be the delay in refreshing, like people keep saying, the board is slowing, and thats the kind of gives that make it clear.

i am on http://www.nationalrail.co.uk/
and yeah its looking like 3-4 steps to the trip.
how i am going to explain that to my dad over the phone is going to be a right pain. looking at the steps i suspect they'll need to take them as steps, get to london, get to next step, go from there. (avoiding woking and its rail replacement! fuck bus replacements)

Shot some slides. Then it started raining. Had to pay my flatmate a packet of durries to get him to come pick me up, whilst listening to a Contrast Chick scream about how her friends had ruined her birthday, and how disgusting a nearby man was for pissing in the street.

Put up with ten minutes of this, then when my mate arrived, I waved goodbye to the girls and said, "Have a great night, ladies."

The resulting deathstare was well worth it.

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Contrast Chick

Funny Lith but what is a Contrast Chick? Or have I not been paying attention?

The token fugly chick a group of Attractive chicks will allow to hang out with them, in order to make them look better by contrast.

not unlike yourself then.

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzing!!!!!

[dematerializes]

I did Christmas shopping, including finding outfits for various parties and dinners of the festive period. Nightmare. Why are the dresses either strapless or have stupidly high necklines?

Buy the strapless, then throw on a cardigan.

Just realized I've been back from vacation for a week.

House is still a wreck, although there is a big clear space around the new HD sattelite box and the new TV.

If it had been up to me, we would have cleaned up FIRST, got rid of the &^*($ 300 lbs of dead Panasonic SECOND, then gone out to buy the new one.

Nice TV, though. Mythbusters in high definition looks really great.

Sleep now. Back to cleaning in the AM.

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Originally posted by Fashionpolice:

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Originally posted by Aisha:
Witness,

I don't think it helps much, but I was reminded of the "I've been told I'm gonna die" come-back: "So how is that news exactly..?"

It happens to the vast majority, only some don't realize it.
Cold comfort I know.

Witness, I also wonder what motivated your friend to tell you that your wife was cheating on you.

I met him through my wife. He learned of it from his wife.

We're both married to Chinese women and they happen to have come from the same town originally and have several mutual friends in common. Both here and abroad.

Since he'd been very active in talking her up to me when we first started dating he felt shitty about it when he learned what was going on and told me.

I've not responded earlier because I've been thinking things through, and I've been spending time with my closer friends (at least as far as the Sydney friends get) and crying on their shoulders (metaphorically, I'm far too manly to actually cry.)

I probably wouldn't have posted this particular section on a message board, but it was fairly late in the evening and I needed to tell someone.

For the sake of closure and clarity, the issue is still being discussed. I don't want to lose my wife, but I don't know how I will be able to bring myself to trust her again. At the moment I think that the relationship isn't likely to recover.

Witness:

years ago (many years) I was the bad one. Screwing the neighbor wife.

We celebrated our 20th anniversary last summer.

Wasn't much pf a celebration, really, because my more recent health problems has put a crimp on things. (For awhile, I was so prone to unexpected drastic nosebleeds I dared scarcely laugh or grin broadly, for such actions would rupture a nasal blood vessel...)

Back on track. The test for us was when my wife asked me: Are you...?

I said yes.

Next question, after a bit of temper expression: DO you want a divorce?

I said no.

If she answered your question honestly, I'd say trust is viable. Even if she perhaps waited a few days to come in and tell true.

Patience and moderation are your friends now. You seem to have these qualities in ample degree already, so I have high hopes.

People are often, yea, almost unremittingly foolish. Including those we marry. Folly is a constant of the human condition. Marriage is historically capable of accommodating our folly so long as it isn't malicious aforethought.

Sorry to hear it Witness, same thing has just happened to me over here in Alaska. My husband Filed, and has told me of his affair in one fell swoop. In my case I am not surprised... I suppose you could say it has been a long time coming.
What did catch me off guard is how sad it feels to be at this place, you know, regarless of how we get there, things fall apart... and hey, there you are. What now, try to rebuild (with special attention to trust issues?) or Let it go finally.
Regardless, if you love that person and care for them... well fuck all, hurts pretty damn bad. I am trying to be nice, at this stage of things, given my spouses excesses, this shall be a challenge.
I am trying to think forward to my future hindsight, would like to have as few regrets as possible. All the best though Witness.
This from kenmeer livermaile makes good sense too,

"Patience and moderation are your friends now. You seem to have these qualities in ample degree already, so I have high hopes.

People are often, yea, almost unremittingly foolish. Including those we marry. Folly is a constant of the human condition. Marriage is historically capable of accommodating our folly so long as it isn't malicious aforethought.

"Being lied to sucks, oh it realy does; however when folks have the courage to change... that is beyond price in my book.

Well, if it's any consolation, my ex-Novocastrian, half-Australian, half-Chinese kids tend to turn out as hideous mutants.

Oh, you self-loathing little man. Say it loud: "I'm lith, and I'm proud."

Thal and Witness, really sorry. Hope things work out for the best.
and to lighten things up, here:



Like a friend already said: "It's deer season!"

On a decidedly lighter note (all sympathies for those whose worlds are turning upside down these days), I was trolling through iTunes a while ago, picking up some Christmas tunes (yay Vince Guaraldi) and just coasting from there to some Interpol and some electronica and thence to the Blow Monkeys, and thence to the Mighty Lemon Drops, and all I can say is yay for iTMS because it's let me re-find a bunch of old stuff that I love but which I might not otherwise have thought about. Although there's also the frustration when they don't have the artists you really want or the specific songs you want. But yeah.

Oh and last night out at dinner (foie gras parfait, duck à l'orange, mousse au chocolat), waiting for my companion to make it there in the snow, I discovered that my new iPod has solitaire on it. Oh dear.

We went to Katerini visiting our folks today. Just got back.
and I found the family album with the baby pics.
Trogdor's thread is about to get flooded.

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Like a friend already said: "It's deer season!"

Finger on trigger? Improper boot blouse? Two demerits! No goat for you, Private!

Wow, no kidding, sloppy blouse indeed,probably has the whole neighborhooddown range.
And thanks Strive and Minx, I can still count my blessings and yes... (It is Deer Season