once apon a time, I was young, and I had feelings.
Back then, I tried out age differences both ways; and looking back now, I think age was not so much an issue as all the things one used age as a cover for. That said, young women should probably avoid 20-50 year older men.

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Originally posted by M:
That said, young women should probably avoid 20-50 year older men.

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Hell, avoid all men, just to be safe. We're more fucked up than you can possibly imagine.

Not all men, just those that post on the WGB

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Originally posted by Crash:
CKC sez >>>> "a relationship is never free without honesty. myself, i prefer freedom over incarceration."

"Honey, do I look fat in this dress?"

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OK, listen carefully:

The correct response is always "Why should I answer that?"

Sheesh.

"OK, listen carefully:

The correct response is always "Why should I answer that?" Sheesh."

Oh, please. Woman are far too persistent to let that one go. This is the same species that will walk 10 blocks in heels just to save 30% off cashmere.

You can connive yourself into a situation where you can honestly say, "No, you look great," to that question. Of course that leads to a whole different set of issues since she won't believe me, uh, I mean you.

Frankly, I wish my wife would come fishing for complements more often. Being asked to evaluate gives me an excuse to stare (more).

You want real trouble?

Say, "No honey, that dress makes you look great. You just look fat when you take it off."

or

"You can't even see how much weight you've gained when you're wearing that"

"Dresses are overrated. When can I get you out of it?"

Now that my friend is the *right* answer!

or better yet...

"Not from under here it doesn't"

Ah, well, FP...the older you get, like a good Single Malt, the smoother you get.

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Ah, well, FP...the older you get, like a good Single Malt, the smoother you get.

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on that note..good night!

Dear future husband:

I vow to always expect a straightforward answer to the "fat" question. In return, no getting lazy and boring. Deal? OK, maybe lazy is OK.

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Originally posted by charmakarmacat:

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I'm going to be turning 32 this year. She's 21. Point against. MAJOR point against.

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shouldn't be an issue my man.

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Maybe not for you weird cats, but for humans,
it'll always be an issue.

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Originally posted by Pauline:
Dear future husband:

I vow to always expect a straightforward answer to the "fat" question. In return, no getting lazy and boring. Deal? OK, maybe lazy is OK.

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So... in exchange for the future husband being so
brave as to be honest wrt the fat question, you
won't get lazy and boring? What an odd deal.

Right. But if he starts getting fishy and averting his eyes when answering the question, she'll bring on the boring smackdown.

Me, I'd rather like to get a little fat one of these days. Who knows. Maybe after pregnancy.

After? Why not during?

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"I miss 100% of the shots I don't take." - Wayne Gretzky

That's one of my favorite quotes, ever. Is it any wonder that I'd learned it from an ex-girlfriend with whom I had a good relationship?

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A woman who can quote hockey philosophy? How did you let her go?

and I'm with FP on the happy-to-be-out-of-it frame of mind. Wouldn't presume to offer any advice, except to say that I wish I'd been more aggressive in going after what I wanted earlier in life.

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Originally posted by dayliner:
A woman who can quote hockey philosophy? How did you let her go?

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I was 27, she was 19. We met when she was going to school here in Nashville. We broke it off when she had to transfer back to Memphis, where her family was, for financial and scholastic reasons. I let her go because she said she had to go and I wasn't about to get in the way of her efforts to improve herself.

It wasn't until a week before she left that I realized I cared a great deal about her and would miss her terribly. But I got over it and so did she. We had a good run for the short time we were together and I don't, for a minute, regret my experience with her. Of the many young women I've met in the past, she had her head screwed on pretty damned tight and I respected her immensely.

While a nice physical package is a good way to get my interest to begin with, one of the FIRST things I attempt to learn about a woman is whether or not she can stimulate me mentally. If she isn't quick of wit or well-versed in communication skills, she doesn't stand a chance with me, no matter HOW cute she might be.

I actually had a cute, dumb chick make an unmistakable, solid pass at me. I knew, for a fact, that she was a bonehead and said, "You're very cute and I'm sure you have the potential to make somebody very happy in the near future, but pairing you and me together would be like asking for a long-term exercise in exasperation. So, no, I don't find you attractive at all." One of her friends actually had to decipher my response and, when she finally understood it, she had the temerity to get upset. To which I said, "That you needed someone to explain my rejection only proves my point. You, my dear, are barking up my tree and it's the wrong one. Go look for a Vander-Biff."